After more horror this week, some still unfolding, this seems more necessary than ever.
Coping with Traumatic Events
“Self care is a neo-liberal scam. Here’s why you should do it anyway.” Laurie Penny: Life-Hacks of the Poor and Aimless:
The problem with self-love as we currently understand it is in our view of love itself, defined, too simply and too often, as an extraordinary feeling that we respond to with hearts and flowers and fantasy, ritual consumption and affectless passion. Modernity would have us mooning after ourselves like heartsick, slightly creepy teenagers, taking selfies and telling ourselves how special and perfect we are. This is not real self-love, no more than a catcaller loves the woman whose backside he’s loudly admiring in the street.
The harder, duller work of self-care is about the everyday, impossible effort of getting up and getting through your life in a world that would prefer you cowed and compliant. A world whose abusive logic wants you to see no structural problems, but only problems with yourself, or with those more marginalized and vulnerable than you are. Real love, the kind that soothes and lasts, is not a feeling, but a verb, an action. It’s about what you do for another person over the course of days and weeks and years, the work put in to care and cathexis. That’s the kind of love we’re terribly bad at giving ourselves, especially on the left.
Black Lives Matter
Death in Black and White: what white America fails to see “You cannot know how we secretly curse the cowardice of whites who know what I write is true, but dare not say it. Neither will your smug insistence that you are different — not like that ocean of unenlightened whites — satisfy us any longer. It makes the killings worse to know that your disapproval of them has spared your reputations and not our lives.”
Dear people “Black Lives Matter” does not have an “only” in front of it, but a “too” at the end. Stop being whiny pissants & grow up. — @MKKare
If someone posted “Thank you Veterans”….
well I think that all lives matter
Molly Suzanna: When I was 19 (via @fozmeadows)
Law professor’s response to BLM shirt complaint (via @nkjemisin)
15 Things Your City Can Do Right Now to End Police Brutality (via @pericat)
Structural racism in action. (And the comments prove the point.)
How discrimination feels
OITNB Killed Off Poussey and You Can’t Tell Me Not to be Pissed
A really, really important read. I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out.
In the news
BBC to drop online recipes as part of slimmed-down website “The broadcaster has agreed to archive 11,000 recipes from its website as part of savings intended to stop it competing with newspapers.”
Crafters shaking their heads about academics.
Quote of the week
The reason Canadians are so nice is because at birth a ritual is performed to extract all of their hate and place it in their geese.
Plant lamps: want. Ingenious Lamps Allow Plants to Grow Indoors without Direct Sunlight or Water
Just for fun
Warthogs Visit Mongooses for Spa Treatments (via @PatrickWeekes)
Owl loves rubs